Have you ever met heartbreak?…
Is Heart Break easy to take?…
Is it painful? Is it unbearable? Is it excruciating? Is it agonizing?
Does it has any treatment? Can it be healed? Can anyone help me? Can I get the same person again? And a big loud scream I want him/ her again in my life else, I will die.
The above said things must be spinning in the head of those who are really heartbroken. But can you ever think it can be a boon? What makes you to think that it is intolerable, unendurable and awful. If your answer is” YES” then please remove your glasses and see through the glasses that I will provide you today.
I am a teacher by profession, motivator by passion and a guide by fascination. I am the kind of person wherein people, children, students keep coming, calling or contacting so as to direct them towards their greatest life.
The same happened to me a few months back. A boy named Rahul called me up late evening. He wants to meet me. It was too late in the evening so I refused him to meet and asked: “Tomorrow is Sunday, do come and meet me tomorrow”.
He pleaded, requested and begged “ Madam I am in a grave problem. Only you can give me the solution of the problem, so I want to meet you right now. “ Seeing the way he was insisting I agreed to meet.
Within ten minutes someone rang my doorbell. I quickly apprehended that he must be Rahul. I opened the door and as per my expectations, it was Rahul. I welcomed him made him comfortable on the couch in my drawing room and asked what you wanted to say.
He started “I still can’t forget the first day we met. I can’t express you the feelings that were bubbling up inside which were similar as that of water which was left on fire to boil. Things were oozing out in an uncontrolled manner.T he whole experience inside was way too euphoric for me. “
So I took courage, went straight to her in the classroom and proposed her and out of my expectations she agreed. I can’t describe you the moment when my heart beat was running more faster than a jet plane and blood flow is competing a bullet train.
More than two years we enjoyed, partied, met in solitude, exchanged texts, flowers, gifts, chocolates, lip locked and promised to live together forever. She became the most important part of my life. I went against everyone for her even my friends and family. We seemed to be the happiest couple of this universe.
Suddenly her attitude towards me started changing. Her messages started taking time to reply, even there were days when I had to wait the whole day to receive the reply. Suddenly she stopped meeting me.
Her phone started giving an engaged reply. I went straight to her home and got shocked to see her with a close friend of mine, laughing, smiling, playing naughtily with hands in hands. I took courage went and asked what is this? She got shocked but in no moment she replied: “ I want to break off .“
Her words fell like a meteor on my heart creating a deep hole inside. For a moment it felt I am unable to breathe and would die. This pain is more vigorous than any other physical pain and he started crying bitterly. Floods of tears started streaming from his eyes and it seemed no end to his tears.
The childish way he was crying made me to laugh out loud. He got shocked to see and asked”Ma’am, I am heart broken and you are laughing. With high hopes, I came to you to find the solution and you are taking it in a very easy manner.”
Calming him I said “OK, give me the answer of a question that I will ask you. If someone breaks the glass of your window what you will do? Will you keep it the same way ?“
“No, I will replace it and this time buys a glass of better quality to ensure, if someone hits, it should not break easily.”
“ See you know the solution.”
That day I suggested him a few more points also which has changed his perspective..
HEARTBREAK CAN BE A SOURCE OF INSPIRATION AND MOTIVATION.
Take your heart break as a blessing in disguise. Take it as an opportunity to grow. Every bad situation is a testament of a successful tomorrow, every rough road is a way to new horizons, every storm in the sea will be accompanied by a calm and soothing atmosphere provided you need to stand firmly.
Sam Smith, the talented singer who recently won four Grammy awards, is a true example to the fact that heart can be inspiring and leads you towards success. After receiving one of his rewards, during an acceptance speech, Smith said I want to thank my lover so much for breaking my heart, because of whom I got me four Grammy’s.
HEART BREAK CAN MAKE YOU INSIGHTFUL AND CREATIVE
Yes when we are heartbroken, we are most creative as per statistics. It says contentment kills creativity. We live superficially when we are happy. Heart break creates immense energy of pain and suffering in you. But if you channelize this energy you can be a great writer, a great entrepreneur, can be a great philosopher or can be anyone you want to become. You all must have read in science energy can be transformed from one form to another. Similarly this painful energy can be transformed into constructing a richer life. So stop seeing the world from the hopeless frame of heart break .
LET GO OFF WHAT YOU DON”T DESERVE
You let go off a wrong person who doesn’t deserve you.
My mother used to say, “If you don’t close the wrong doors the right ones won’t open.” Ending a rough relationship means you are one step closer to finding not just your next partner, but your perfect partner. Keeping the relationship further will make you only grow fearful, anxious and stressful. There is no point chasing or stalking the person on social media. Its inoperable also to keep begging or waiting. It’s time to know your worth, it’s time to take a pause, look inwardly, check your potentiality and come out as a new human. You don’t deserve an episode of tearful days and sleepless nights.
TIME TO SET NEW STANDARDS FOR YOU.
Tests keep us more active and make us more intelligent. Take heartbreak as a new examination conducted by life and in which you have to come out with flying colors . The tougher the test the wiser you grow and the assessment which heartbreak has taken on you can make you to emerge as new, renovated person which will help you to set standards for yourself. Now you are aware of what you have to do. Now you are more mature, you grow in your experience. See how it helps.
INCREASE STRENGTH AND ENDURANCE
Lastly, it makes you strong. You’ll become mature and wise. You tend to develop many assets in you. You grow more patient, more empathetic, more grateful and appreciative towards life. Your degree of acceptance increases as you now are experienced enough to accept your life failures and cope with the loss. A heartbroken person takes his next life failures in an optimistic way.
Listening to all my points Rahul wiped his tears, thanked me and promised to renovate himself. He worked hard day and night, wrote lyrics of various songs and became a renowned rapper.
Thus nothing can be as better than a HEART BREAK. I may sound weird but it is a fact provided you have to have the eyes to find the opportunity in it and to feel the blessing that GOD has sent through your way. Take it as a heart renewal process.
It is rightly said, “ KEEP BREAKING YOUR HEART UNTIL IT BREAKS.”